The whole house selling business has really made me sad, and mad and unhappy and frustrated and a bunch of other words I cannot think of right now. It’s made me hard to live with I am sure. I know this is the best thing for us - the house is too big and the mortgage is too big and all the other bills associated with this place are too much - I know logically in my head that selling it and moving into an apartment is the best thing.
But a small piece of me keeps screaming “OMG we actually lost the house”
No the bank is not beating down the door for the payment - yes we are staying ahead on all our bills for that matter. But in reality - when you really really think about it - I wonder if the economy was running smoothly and houses were selling and being built would we still have made the decision to sell. Because our last (in the Spring) discussion about selling we had decided to remodel instead.
And then tonight I had a thought run through my head: “I never want to own any house ever again - because if the economy turns to shit again we will have to sell that one too - and that one will be even worse because I will have picked out every damn cabinet knob myself”
I am going to start looking for apartments - I hate feeling like I have no control over anything.
dkpark
January 20th, 2009 at 3:51 am
I am not in the same situation as you at all but I do understand that loss of control feeling. It’s really hard for me too. I am glad you wrote about it, maybe it will relieve some of the anxiety. Take care of yourself.
January 20th, 2009 at 4:37 am
It can be scary but a house is an excellent investment! I am sure that even the one you have now would be doable with you both working. Still, I like to keep my payment low (here, that’s under $1500 month, mine is $1000) and I’ve done the other cutbacks to make sure we keep this house.
I used to think I’d upgrade, but have changed my mind!
January 20th, 2009 at 8:20 am
I once owned a big house together with my ex. Then I lived together with a partner in a condominium. For both, owning means being responsible for repairs, upkeep, just about everything. I now rent and I’m happy that all that stuff is someone else’s responsiblity.
BUT, for some things I have to ask the owners permission before I’m allowed to do something. I heard that in the States you sometimes can’t even put nails in the walls for hangin pictures! So think about all that VERY carefully.